Different words but have the same meaning
It's also an act that can hurt someone
Especially to the loved one
What is the purpose to do this?
Someone I know used to tell me this,
To survive in this world, sometimes,lying is a MUST!
Or else,someone will 'eat' you
But for me, when someone is deceiving others
This is because, he or she want to hide the truth
Trust me, This is also the reason why I used to tell lies b4..
But then, I started to realize
When you start telling a lie
You will create another one
For eg; A teacher asked his student, John about why he did not come to school
Teacher: Why did U absent from school yesterday?
John : Owh..I'm having a fever(actually, he went to the cyber cafe)
Teacher: Really..so, did U bring Ur MC?
John : Sorry sir.. I didn't go to see the doc. Nobody's can take me there
Teacher:Really. Where's Ur parents?
John : Urm..Both of them are not in home..They've gone on vacation.for a week
Teacher: Vacation?without U?in the middle of month?
John : Yeah..they are having their erm..2nd honeymoon! That's why they have gone without me and they picked this date because..They want to avoid traffic jam! U know sir, how crazy the traffic can be sometimes especially during holidays.haha (John started to feel uneased,his trying his best to hide the truth)
Teacher: I see..now I understand why U couldn't bring the MC
John : (He feels relieved when thinking his teacher believe in his story)
Teacher: But what I don't understand here, can U explain to me why is Ur mother is waving at us right now with ur books on her hand?!
John : erk.. That's my mother's twin.. (Oh My God!)
Did U get something? John keep lying in order to cover the truth. That's also can happen to us. Ok. Maybe the story is just a normal situation which bring no harm.
But how about, when John keep practicing lies to cover his acts, what happen to him when he grown up?
Especially when he gets married..
Do you really think he will speak no lies towards his wife and family when he is doing something wrong?of course not!
Because John is habituated to it and he perfect in it
So, what is relationship if it based on lies?
Besides love, the trustworthy is also an important thing to build a relationship right?
And, just put Ur place to his family position
How would U feel when U know someone is cheating on U?
Hurt right? especially when it comes from the one that U really trust
So,what I'm trying to say here
Just tell the truth
Speak no lies
No matter how hard the reality it is, I'm sure no one like to be deceived
Yes, telling the truth is hard, sometimes it can lead to the bad consequences
This is where U should know what is the best situation and the best way to tell the person
And if the person cannot accept it, just let them be
Give them some times
And for U
Deep inside in Ur heart, U will feel relieve because
At least, one burden has been removed from Ur shoulders
Plus if U creating the lies, U will be caught up
If its not today, it will be another day..
The Prophet said, "Truthfulness leads to righteousness, and righteousness leads to Paradise. And a man keeps on telling the truth until he becomes a truthful person. Falsehood leads to Al-Fajur (i.e. wickedness, evil-doing), and Al-Fajur (wickedness) leads to the (Hell) Fire, and a man may keep on telling lies till he is written before Allah, a liar." (HR Bukhari)
Narrated Abu Huraira:
Allah's Apostle said, "The signs of a hypocrite are three: Whenever he speaks, he tells a lie; and whenever he promises, he breaks his promise; and whenever he is entrusted, he betrays (proves to be dishonest)". (HR Bukhari)
And if someone has admitted something to U,
My advice is,
Appreciate their courage to tell U the truth instead of telling lies
U know, it is no easy to admit the mistakes especially the serious one
At least, tell them, U may forgive, but not forget
And also, help them to fix the problem instead of yelling or cursing them
Always remember this, Nobody is perfect
Today is their day
Tomorrow? Maybe one day we will be in their shoes..
Narrated Abu Huraira:
Allah's Apostle said, "The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger." (HR Bukhari)
Narrated Anas bin Malik:
The Prophet said, "Make things easy for the people, and do not make it difficult for them, and make them calm (with glad tidings) and do not repulse (them )." (HR Bukhari)